I just got back from a walk.  It is one of those picture, perfect days in the Northeast when Spring is still in the air...the temperature is in the lo 70's, there is a cool breeze blowing, the sky is a brilliant blue and all is well in the world!  I operate so much better when I walk:  not only is the exercise great for my on a physical level but the immersion in nature has a profound effect on my state of mind.  When I get back to the house, I notice that I handle the remainder of the day much better.

Handling a divorce and moving forward to create a new life takes real effort, the ability to go deep, taking personal responsibility, doing hard work and juggling life.  That takes energy, a center from which to operate and a strong sense of self to name just a few of the items that will allow us to be our best selves.  If we are tired, tense, stressed out or  nutritionally deficient , do you suppose we can actually do the work of divorce recovery let alone handle all that life hands us? Not.

We must take care of ourselves to ensure that we can operate at a level equal to the task.  Just handling life alone requires diligence to our state of being let alone the work of divorce recovery.  What do we need?

- Sleep.  A good night's sleep which means 7-8 hours.

-Exercise.  Exercise not only keeps us physically fit and prevents certain diseases, it also works to clear our minds and boost our level of satisfaction.

-Proper nutrition.  What we eat has a huge impact on how we feel...not only physically but emotionally as well.  Nourish your body, don't punish it. if you are punishing it, take a good look at why you are looking for comfort in food.

- Down-time.  Try meditating or doing yoga everyday even if it is just for 10 minutes. It clears the mind, increases awareness and crates a sense of calm and peace.

-Have fun. Do things that make you feel alive and bring a smile to your face. Take time for yourself to enjoy life.

-Pamper yourself . Get a massage or take a long, deep bath.  Whatever makes you feel special. Because you are.

- Surround yourself with family and friend that honor and challenge you.  Get rid of the pessimism from your life.

How's that for a start?  Where do you show-up on the list?  Are you taking care of yourself, honoring and respecting yourself?